Thinking about defriending

[bobquasit]

I'm thinking about cleaning out my friends list again. There are several people who either A) never friended me back, B) have been totally inactive for many months, or C) haven't responded to my comments or posts for a long time.

So fuck 'em.

Of course, that will leave about four people on the list (reality check: actually sixteen or so), but it's not like I'm getting anything out of the people I'll cut...and apparently they're not getting anything from me.

Sometimes I hate LiveJournal. It's so damned high school, know what I mean? Normally I'd have to go move in with my parents for three months to get the infantilizing effects of three bad minutes on LJ.

Actually I'm not in a bad mood, despite the above. How could I be? I'm listening to "Rudy Can't Fail" again! :D

Note to self: I really need to find something to write about. All this whining is starting to bore even ME.

Comments

[klyfix.livejournal.com]

Hmm,

"Expect little and you won't be disapointed."

I think that's an actual quote from somewhere which I think is meant to mean "Ya gotta strive to go anyplace" but that I take as "Don't get your hopes up to high, because when it's all said and done it's a Lloyd Bridges movie"...oh wait, that's Joel and the Bots. Well, basically, I figure that if you don't expect much and something happens then it's a nice thing but if nothing happens then big whoop. Something like that.

[tcpip.livejournal.com]

It's always a bit of a question on who are you writing the journal for, because in one sense it's a record of your thoughts and activities and in another you have have an audience.

[dancing-kiralee.livejournal.com]

One of the good things about LJ is that it's all about community...

Of course, one of the bad things about LJ is that it's all about community.

Kiralee

[bobquasit.livejournal.com]

You know, the whole thing is reminiscent in some ways of the Interregnum APA, and before that, of The Wild Hunt. Remember the comments?

Sometimes it was easy to make good, meaningful comments on other peoples' zines. But just as often, it was torture. As editor, I couldn't bear to RAEBNC - Read And Enjoyed But No Comment - so all too often I forced myself to make some sort of semi-coherent response to each zine. But that just made things worse; I came to really hate doing ANY comments.

Come to think of it, though, that's not really a good comparison. I DON'T make comments on friends' journals here unless I feel like it.

What bothers me is making comments on journal entries and then being totally blown off in return. In that regard, the APA comparison IS apt; I hated it when I went to the effort of writing a zine, and commenting on everyone else's zine, only to be ignored or RAEBNCed in return.

Grrr.

[bobquasit.livejournal.com]

I know; that split audience makes it hard to focus, in a way.

Of course, another factor is that often I am writing this at least partly for Sebastian, many years from now.

[klyfix.livejournal.com]

Well, that's something of a thing, yeah. While I will admit that I'm disappointed when something I put out about what I think is a Cool Thing is ignored, I think I have to not expect comments. And I don't want to have to comment about, well, everything that's out there. In the APA, well, probably more than half the stuff was stuff I really didn't have much to say about but felt that I kinda had to.

And there's the whole response to the response thing; I posted in reponse to one of your bits where you wondered why we can't always be happy (something like that) the seemingly to me obvious statement "There is no progress in the Garden of Eden." Something like that; the idea being that if we're too content there's no incentive for invention or an idea that things can be better, I think. Prompting a bit by another contributor, possibly as a full article, refuting an argument that I don't think I was making. Which, to be sure, is a legitimate thing but perhaps unnerving.

I'm perhaps not all that good on the Community Thing.

To Wildly Tangent...

[klyfix.livejournal.com]

Final Jeopardy category tonight was "Words from Latin" and the final answer was something like "A period of time that occurred in 304 for (some time)and 2005 (for some time)" with several other years mentioned.

Answer was "Interregnum."

See, it was the term used for the period between two Papal reigns.

The person who got it right bet nothing; in this super championship series thing the score was over two days added together and yesterday he had a blow-out. The other two bet relatively big. So for all that he didn't do that well in today's run, with yesterday's score he moves on.

[tcpip.livejournal.com]

Of course, another factor is that often I am writing this at least partly for Sebastian, many years from now.

Ah, now that would be fascinating reading. If only we'd received the educational benefits of a parents livejournal in our adult development...

[charibdis.livejournal.com]

People suck.

If you're doing it for Sebastian, or yourself, try to take some comfort in the fact you are making a rich journal with lots of fun details about your lives.