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"Black men are dangerous. They're bestial, unable to control their base desires. Every one of them wants to rape white women. We'd be better off without them."
Disgusting, right? Nothing anyone could say publicly in this day and age, unless they were in the White House. It's something you might hear in the 1920s or '30s, but certainly not today.
Now take out two key words:
"Men are dangerous. They're bestial, unable to control their base desires. Every one of them wants to rape women. We'd be better off without them."
Suddenly it's something anyone could say in a magazine, newspaper, TV, or on social media. A little extreme, perhaps, but perfectly righteous.
And all I did was take out " black" and "white".
People rarely realize that they're being bigoted. When it's common opinion, it just seems like common sense. It's not until times change that people realize what they did and (some become) ashamed of it.
I believe that in time, it will be recognized that men have become an acceptable target for discrimination that those same people would NEVER think of directing against a racial group, for example.
Unfortunately most so-called "men's rights" groups are fronts for white supremacy, MAGA, and fascism. But that doesn't mean that men aren't actually discriminated against in some real ways.
The presence of a Y chromosome doesn't make a human being a monster. The lack thereof doesn't make someone an angel. Women can be abusive just like men. We aren't that different.
I've been abused by women, badly. Date-raped by a woman. Stalked by women. I've never done anything to a woman. Nonetheless I'm constantly called a potential rapist, molester, deadbeat Dad (although I had to raise my son solo when his mother abandoned him)...it gets to me. It gets to me really badly.
I've only ever tried to treat everyone as a human being worthy of respect until they proved themselves otherwise. And yet when I spoke up to say women can have the same flaws as some men, I'm immediately mocked, sneered at, and hit with the "Not all men" trope - as if that proved something somehow. It's bullying coupled with utter self-righteousness. And I just can't take it any more.
But my only option is to run away. Because I WON'T join one of those men's rights groups. Still, I'm angry.
Disgusting, right? Nothing anyone could say publicly in this day and age, unless they were in the White House. It's something you might hear in the 1920s or '30s, but certainly not today.
Now take out two key words:
"Men are dangerous. They're bestial, unable to control their base desires. Every one of them wants to rape women. We'd be better off without them."
Suddenly it's something anyone could say in a magazine, newspaper, TV, or on social media. A little extreme, perhaps, but perfectly righteous.
And all I did was take out " black" and "white".
People rarely realize that they're being bigoted. When it's common opinion, it just seems like common sense. It's not until times change that people realize what they did and (some become) ashamed of it.
I believe that in time, it will be recognized that men have become an acceptable target for discrimination that those same people would NEVER think of directing against a racial group, for example.
Unfortunately most so-called "men's rights" groups are fronts for white supremacy, MAGA, and fascism. But that doesn't mean that men aren't actually discriminated against in some real ways.
The presence of a Y chromosome doesn't make a human being a monster. The lack thereof doesn't make someone an angel. Women can be abusive just like men. We aren't that different.
I've been abused by women, badly. Date-raped by a woman. Stalked by women. I've never done anything to a woman. Nonetheless I'm constantly called a potential rapist, molester, deadbeat Dad (although I had to raise my son solo when his mother abandoned him)...it gets to me. It gets to me really badly.
I've only ever tried to treat everyone as a human being worthy of respect until they proved themselves otherwise. And yet when I spoke up to say women can have the same flaws as some men, I'm immediately mocked, sneered at, and hit with the "Not all men" trope - as if that proved something somehow. It's bullying coupled with utter self-righteousness. And I just can't take it any more.
But my only option is to run away. Because I WON'T join one of those men's rights groups. Still, I'm angry.