bobquasit | Circumcision for his girlfriend

Here's a question I couldn't resist commenting on:

"my girl friend does not like uncircumcised men. She wants me to go under the knife, should I even be considering this"

Sure. And have her get a full body enhancement while you're at it. Anything about her you don't like? Have a doctor carve her up to match your fantasies!

Seriously, you can get a new girlfriend. And you'd be much better off with one who likes you for YOU, and doesn't want you to get part of yourself cut off. This is just one demand; what's next?

Say you do it. And down the road, she dumps you. What then?

I really wouldn't think twice about this; I'd leave her. Let her go find a circumsized boyfriend, since that's what she wants. But if there's any justice in the universe, he'll be a real jerk.

Find a better girl!

I've noticed that those who are in favor of circumcision are always those who have nothing to lose by it: women (some, not all, and they're usually American women), and men who were circumcised at birth and therefore do not remember ever having a foreskin.

It seems to me that some of those pro-circumcision men are basically trying to convince themselves that they didn't lose anything of value. That's why they so often insist that "it's just a little piece of skin, it's no big deal". But that's simply not true; there are blood vessels, tissue, and many nerve endings in the foreskin.

All men are born with it. Unlike the appendix, it does not run a risk of killing you (and yet we don't remove the appendix preemptively), nor does it pose a meaningful hazard to your health. I've heard the arguments about cleanliness, but by the same logic your mouth can be disgusting, dirty, and dangerous to your health if it's not cleaned regularly. Does anyone advocate surgically removing the mouths of infants?

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Run, don't walk from this girl. There are LOTS of women who appreciate intact men. You should not consider changing anything about your body for someone else- especially amputation.

The idea that you should be willing to cut off sexually sensitive, healthy, functional genital tissue to appease the absurd, superficial, and unjustified preferences of a woman is absolutely NUTS.

the foreskin contains the same type of nerve endings as the fingertips and lips, it protects the head of the penis and the urethra, and aids in sexual functioning. Its YOURS... not hers. I honestly would NEVER even consider staying with a woman who would think it acceptable to make such a request. How many sensitive, sexually pleasurable parts of her body do you think she'd be willing to cut off of herself on your whim? I'd guess none. She clearly does not have your interests at heart.

Please do NOT mutilate your body this way.
There are many very informative websites, that have taught me much about this issue.

Look at:
www.nocirc.org and check out the video on the home page.
www.circinfosite.com and click on the tab "Personal Stories." Very enlightening.
www.cirp.org and scroll down to "Anatomy of the Penis and the Mechanics of Intercourse."

My research on these and other sites has taught me that the foreskin is a very necessary piece of a man's body. A good friend of mine has spoken to me at length about how he feels his circumcision (done in infancy) has practically ruined his sex life, and how only the tiny piece of frenulum remaining feels good to him. And in my own experience with men, I had one intact boyfriend, and he had a much better sexual response than the other two men I have been intimate with. (I'm a woman, by the way!)

I know it can be very difficult because you want to please your girlfriend. But ultimately, you have to put yourself, and your health and well-being, first. It is not a very loving or caring act of her to request this of you. I am saying a prayer for you! (Please take time to look over the websites. You have been lucky to have escaped the mutilation that many men endured as babies. You owe it to yourself to research this fully before taking any action.)

Thanks for the advice, everyone, but just to be clear: The question was NOT about me. It's from a site called Askville. I'm married, and nobody's talking about circumcising me. :D

The "my girlfriend does not like" question in the hyperlink was NOT MINE. The lengthy answers in blockquotes beneath the question are my responses to the question. And as you see, I agree with you!

Anyone who mandates or even asks for any sort of body modification in their SO is not someone who deserves an SO, in my book!

Someone over on Askville commented on the question, saying she'd seen three uncut penises with nasty, pustulent, oozing sores. Again, I was inspired to comment:

Okay, A) what sort of guys do you hang around with, and B) yuck!

I've never seen any such thing. Not that I've seen a lot of penises (cut or uncut) other than my own, but I just can't believe that oozing, pus-filled weeping pustulent sores are common on uncircumcised penises. I mean, it's just not credible. I'm not saying that you didn't see them, but I really doubt that all three were simply because of uncleaned foreskins.

Foreskins are not an evolutionary timebomb, ready to kill their owners if they're not chopped off. It's more arguable that female breasts occupy that role. But we're not chopping them off preemptively, are we? (Thank goodness!)

Billions and billions of men have lived long lives and reproduced without being circumcised. It's not credible to believe that a part that every male is born with is so prone to infection as you suggest. Well, except for teeth. Those damn things are very poorly designed in an evolutionary sense.

Edited 2009-06-29 14:24 (UTC)

The only health risk of having a foreskin is that the skin cells are less... compacted and "tight" than other skin cells on your body, which is only a concern with HIV/AIDS, as it can penetrate those skin cells more easily.

However, there is an easily solution to this risk: don't have sex with HIV positive folks, or wear a dong bag.

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