bobquasit | New Year

Okay.

I don't believe in New Year's resolutions; or at least, not for me. They're pretty much doomed to be broken, right from the start.

But having said that, there are some things that I'd like to note down for myself, things that should help me in the year to come - IF I can keep them in mind.

1. I need to try to move my sleeping time towards 9:30 PM. Too often I've been staying up until midnight. I need more sleep than that.

2. I'll sleep better if I don't eat after 8 PM. Or maybe even earlier. And I might lose a little weight that way, too.

3. An hour spent writing fiction is more satisfying than an hour spent playing Diablo.

4. I've been too damned lonely this year - hell, these last few years. One way or another, I need more of a social life. And so does my family.

5. Fear is my great enemy. I need to find better ways to fight it.

6. If something stresses me, I need to cut it out - or at least reduce it. The trick is to realize what's stressing me.

7. Use the time I have.

And now it's time for me to go to bed. With luck, I'll be asleep by 9:45.

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I thought having a wife and child meant not having major problems with loneliness again (unless you had to stay away or couldn't stand them).

They do, of course, but not necessarily in the way that you think. We need more social activity than just one other person can provide. And of course in our case, there are a lot of things that Teri and I can't do together. She's getting into roleplaying, a bit, but we can't do a game with just the two of us. And I don't think she'll ever be into watching MST3K, or Babylon 5, or that sort of thing. Nor can I discuss science fiction literature with her. She's on the edge of fandom, but only on the edge.

Which is fine, of course. But it means that I speak a language that she doesn't, metaphorically speaking, and that she isn't interested in learning. I'm sure that there are ways in which I can't satisfy all her social needs, either. That's natural.

I think a long term partner is a very good thing to have. But they don't replace your friends, unless like me you're very lucky and have one of your best friends as your partner.

If I ever tried going to sleep at 9:45pm I'd never sleep. I'd just lie there. So I keep myself up until nearly midnight, just so I know I'm going to go to sleep as soon as I hit the sheets.

1 & 2 makes 4 pretty hard to achieve (especially 2) sice most social lives and activities are 7-11 pm on weeknights.

6. is a great idea... and one I'd love to achieve... but it's not possible to cut out the basement of doom! :-)

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Lonely? I thought families were supposed to help.

Re: Lonely? I thought families were supposed to help.

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